Women’s religion and matrimonial choices: points of convergence and divergence

Over the years, natural scientists have insisted that our bodies are 60% water, and social anthropologists have established that religion influences 60% of our actions and idiosyncrasies.

In the same way, sociologists teach that man is homo-politico (to be political), anthropologists add that man is also homo-religiosus (he is innately religious).
Therefore, religious beliefs, without appeal to a particular gender, inform people’s daily choices. And the choice of who becomes their spouse is not exempt in this regard.
Inadvertently, it is expressed, in the decisions of, to whom we entrust our future as a spouse.

So how did we come to the conclusion that women shouldn’t have a church/religion until they are married?
To say that they are not allowed to have a religion/church until they are married is to say that women’s salvation depends on their husbands, not on themselves and Christ. If such a postulation is true, then it follows that they have no souls until they are married. And their soul (which is born on their wedding day) and its eternal destination is tied to that of their husbands.

So funny!

The other day, a bride called off her wedding, when she realized that her man was from a different sect/denomination than hers.

She refused to compromise her decision to only be able to marry a man who was a member of her church, where she believed her pursuit of salvation was best served.
And everyone condemned it! The insults poured out in the drones. She’s stupid, stupid, religion has hurt Africa, blah blah blah.

I know reading this you may be arguing in your heart – “church doesn’t matter, religion won’t get anyone to heaven.”
My dear, let me shock you, the church really matters, and while religion can’t take you to heaven, it can take you to hell.
These are such opinionated people as you who felt so free to attend any church they see, until they attended the church of Pastor Emeka Ezeugo (Reverend King) – Christian Praying Assembly in Lagos and were bastardized by the cannibal pastor.

Religion doesn’t matter, but Eddie n’ Nawgu, who members of his church nicknamed in Igbo: ‘Ejima Jesus’ – ‘twin of Jesus’ confessed to having killed several times for money during rituals in his “church”.

You support the statement that “the church doesn’t matter” but you hate the church of satan. Why don’t you just subscribe to their auctions, since they are also “church”.

The truth is, where you nurture your spiritual life matters a lot. Many fake churches abound in and around the city. It takes people with a spirit of discernment to know where the spirit of Christ reigns and to fellowship there.

The Bible that we use as a reference for salvation talks was written, compiled, and approved by a particular church. The fact that we all accept and use this same publication as the standard for our faith means a lot. It is therefore important to choose your assembly of faithful wisely and rigorously.

There was a bible with the seven books of Moses, we reject it because it didn’t have the canonical approval of the mother church, but you argue that “church doesn’t matter?” If it doesn’t matter, why don’t you use the Gospel of Judas Iscariot? Or have you not heard that there are other books of the Bible that have been censored and not authorized for use by the Mother Church? Why not buy/download and use them.

The Second Vatican Council declared that all are called to holiness of life, each in his or her respective vocation and profession. This ultimatum was not based on gender. He did not specify men or women, but every human being.

The Small Catechism of the Catholic Church gave us the reason for which we were made: “God made me know him, love him, adore him in this life, in order to live with him forever in heaven” . Again, this is not gender sensitive.

This implies that if a girl finds a suitor whose religious inclination does not support her divine destiny, as stated in the catechism, prudent instinct demands that she reject him, if she is true to her baptismal calling.

Thus, it is tyrannical for a man to think that his religion or denomination suffices for that of his future wife, unless she is originally a member of his religion/denomination, or he is capable of convince and convert her so that she knows, decides and accepts that her church will best serve her soul.

On another note, I would like to say that any girl who has no taste for her own choice of religion is not worth the company of a reasonable man, as a wife.

In the 1988 film – Coming To America, Eddie Murphy (Prince Akeem) left his kingdom in Africa for faraway America, to find his wife; a woman with “grace, elegance, taste and culture”.
He vehemently rejected anyone who, in his native country, was ready to “obey his every order”.

In the film, he was engaged to a woman who, from birth, had been trained never to deny anything he said; “She was brought up to think, speak and act like a queen,” her Father, the king, told her.

It was, for Eddie Murphy, like marrying a dog, because only dogs should obey without having opinions.

This is how he left his native country in search of “a woman who will awaken his intelligence as well as his loins”. A principled woman and not just a fluid-minded bride.
This old movie was for singles who want to get married.

I wonder how some men can enjoy (lifelong) the company of a woman who has no personal opinion, no firm stand with her God and where she feels he is worshiped as he is. agrees. The women of “everything can go!”

Some will stand up, with the warning that girls who reject suitors on the basis of their religious inclination, will end up as perpetual celibates. My opinion is this: maybe that’s why the Bible says “not all will be married”. (Mat. 19:11-21, 1Cor. 7).
If she has become permanently celibate, because she has rejected suitors in the name of her affinity for her Creator’s kingdom, then she is a heroine of true faith, for surviving the stigma that comes with it is a sacrifice. enough to earn him the halo of martyrdom. .

Life has no almighty form. It’s ridiculous how some people tend to pontificate over another person’s life choices as if they were infallible in matters of faith and morality.

For faithful Catholic celibates, canon law (Can 1055 -1165) provided the following provisions for marrying someone from a different sect or religion (mixed or ecumenical marriage):
“Unless expressly authorized by the competent authority, marriage is prohibited between two baptized persons, one of whom has been baptized into the Catholic Church or has been received into it after baptism and has not defected from it by a formal act. , the other of which belongs to a Church or an ecclesial community which is not in full communion with the Catholic Church.

Box. 1125: The local ordinary can grant this permission if there is a just and reasonable cause. It only grants it if the following conditions are met:
1° the Catholic party must declare that it is ready to eliminate the dangers of defection from the faith, and must make a sincere promise to do everything in its power to ensure that all children are baptized and brought up in the church Catholic;
2° the other party must be informed in good time of these promises to be made by the Catholic party, so that it is certain that it is really aware of the promise and of the obligation of the Catholic party.
3° both parties must be informed of the aims and essential properties of marriage, which must not be excluded by any of the contracting parties. (CEC, Book IV, Part I, Title VII, Chapter VI; Revised Code of Canon Law 1055-1165).

So when you see a Catholic lady turn down a suitor because of her church/religion, know that she is obeying the law of faith that she believed in and the suitor refused to believe in. The incompatibility therefore follows from this.
Although, some in self-deception may choose to ignore these warning signs, but they would still resurface halfway through the union.

The sooner we align with these realities, the better.

May the light of day spare us!

Ogechukwu writes via
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